There are few days when it’s not a good idea to have an orgasm.
Orgasms are great. They release stress, they feel glorious, and they bring you closer to your partner.
But if there’s any day when it’s a brilliant day to have an orgasm, it’s today, 31 July, also known as National Orgasm Day.
You’ve probably already got your getting off routine down to a tee (up a little, curved finger, yep, keep going, keep going), so why not take today to try something new?
We’re not just talking doing it on the other side of the bed.
There are apparently 12 different types of female orgasm that are within the realms of possibility. Take a look at the list, take your pick, and challenge yourself.
1. Clitoral orgasm
The most common type of orgasm and the one that’s easiest to achieve… and yet too many women are putting up with minimal clitoral stimulation during sex as their partners prefer to thrust away.
Try oral focusing on gently licking and sucking the clit (we’ve got a handy guide to some ideas on what to do), and during sex use manual stimulation or a sex toy to keep the clitoris involved.
2. G-spot orgasm
Less common, but well known.
The expertise on this is pretty divided, as some experts insist the G-spot isn’t real, while other people claim to have had mindblowing orgasms purely from G-spot stimulation.
It’s easy to check if you get anything from G-spot touching. You’ll find it about two inches inside the vagina, on the front wall (not the back wall closest to your anus). Try massaging it with your finger in a come hither motion.
If it feels amazing, congrats, you’ve found your G-spot. If it feels meh, that’s fine too – there are plenty of other ways to get off.
3. Anal orgasm
Yep, that’s when you orgasm only through anal sex. It’s another controversial type of orgasm that not everyone accepts is ‘real’, but the anal walls are rich in nerve endings so anal can definitely feel pleasurable.
Plus there’s the emotional side of things – the intimacy, the care taken to make sure your comfortable – that can increase pleasure.
Go slow and gradual, starting with a finger and working your way up rather than going straight to putting a penis in your bum, and use plenty of lube. If it hurts, stop. If you’re not enjoying it, stop. You don’t have to do anal sex if you’re not into it.
4. Blended orgasms
Simple: A blended orgasm is when multiple areas of your body are being touched at the same time, so you can’t pinpoint whether just one sensation brought you to climax or if it was a combination.
You’ll need a partner that’s got good hand-eye coordination for this and the ability to multi-task, or you can get involved, dividing up areas of focus such as nipples, clitoris, and G-spot between yourselves.
5. Multiple orgasms
As LoveHoney’s sex and relationship expert Audrey Andrews explains, multiple orgasms can be ‘either sequential (when you orgasm, rest, and then orgasm again) or serial (one orgasm after another with no rest in between).’
Audrey advises trying a sequential style first: Orgasm, then take a minute to rest and enjoy the extra oxytocin (known as the love hormone, it is secreted during sex) flooding your brain. Then go back for round two!’
That’s when you orgasm in your sleep. It can happen thanks to a particularly vivid dream or just feeling deeply relaxed, and it can wake you up.
A sleepgasm does not mean a partner should attempt sex with you while you’re asleep, as you’re unable to give consent. This is not okay.
Sleepgasms aren’t really something you can try, but that just happen on their own. You can try reading some sexy stuff or watching porn before bed to get you in the mood.
7. Cervical orgasm
This happens as a result of deep penetrative sex, as the penis or sex toy taps the opening of the cervix.
You’ll need to build up to this and be fully aroused, and be careful to avoid cervical bruising. Doggy style helps to ensure deep thrusts.
8. U-Spot Orgasm
‘The urethra isn’t just for peeing,’ says Audrey. ‘It’s actually surrounded by some of the hidden parts of the clitoris.
‘When stimulated, blood rushes to the erectile tissue that surrounds the opening, which can result in ejaculation or squirting.
‘Although you can buy internal urethral vibrators, you can also stimulate the area externally using a standard clitoral vibrator. The urethra can be very prone to infection, so do your research before you insert anything. Oh, and make sure to have a towel handy.’
9. A-Spot Orgasm
The A-spot is the ‘anterior fornix exogenous zone’, located right above the cervix, in the area of the belly button.
It’s tricky to reach, and unless you’re using lube it can be painful.
‘It is best reached after considerable foreplay has taken place, and with a generous amount of lube, so take your time before aiming for this kind of climax,’ says Audrey.
‘Get your partner to touch the A-spot with the pad of their finger or a toy, and then pull down across the front wall for a wake-the-neighbours style orgasm!’
10. Nipple orgasm
Nipple orgasms aren’t possible for everyone, so don’t feel rubbish if someone licking your nips does nothing for you.
For some people, though, breast and nipple play can be such a turn-on it brings on an orgasm all by itself, as it triggers the release of oxytocin.
Try edging to test out nipple orgasms.
Audrey advises: ‘Massage the area around your breasts, torso, and tummy to tease yourself, and encourage circulation around your chest. Then, circle and caress your breasts using a featherlike touch. Don’t touch your areolae (area around the nipple) or nipples until you are seriously aroused. Once you feel like you can’t wait any longer, run your fingers around your areolae and start to gently pinch your erect nipples from base to tip.
‘This should result in multiple waves of pleasure washing over you.’
Probably the least fun type of orgasm to attempt, a coregasm – also known as an EIO, exercise-induced orgasm – is an orgasm that’d induced by exercise, usually focusing on your core tummy muscles.
It can happen during exercise or shortly after, and happens as a result of all the feelgood hormones flooding your body when you’re physically exerting yourself.
Exercises that have caused coregasms:
A study by the University of Indiana asked people who’d experienced a coregasm what they’d been doing when it happened.
- 45% said abdominal exercise.
- 26.5% weight lifting.
- 20% yoga.
- 15.8% cycling.
- 13.2% running.
- And a lucky 9.6% said they got off on going for a brisk walk.
12. Expanded sexual response
ESR is a type of orgasm only experienced by some women, who are able to have multiple, prolonged, more intense orgasms that can also bring on flashes of light and colour in their vision, out of body experiences, and feelings of earthquake. Whoa.
Essentially its an orgasm had by someone who is able to achieve extra levels of pleasure beyond a standard orgasm. Their orgasms will last longer and feel much more intense.
Now, this is a good type of orgasm to lead into an important thing to remember: It’s entirely okay if you struggle to achieve any of the orgasms on this list.
Sexual pleasure is complex and intensely personal. What works for one person does nothing for another. There’s nothing wrong with you or your body if one specific thing gets you off, it takes a long time to climax, or you struggle to orgasm at all.
Focus on what feels good for you and give yourself permission to enjoy it. Sex should be fun – not a stressfest dedicated to feeling rubbish about what you ‘should’ be doing.